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Saturday, November 12, 2011

I felt insensitive that all of the sudden my fiance said , you pressured me!

I felt insensitive that all of the sudden my fiance said , you pressured me!

I have so many dreams and since I felt that my fiance could earn much than I do.
I felt that he is the key to all my dreams in life. Sometimes, when we talk about car, I use to tell him you buy me
a car. When I saw some houses for sale or lot for sale, I used to tell him you buy me a house.
Our wedding is coming so soon and with all the expenses it will be shouldered by him.

I was chatting with my sister and she told me that she was looking a lot for sale.
I was so excited telling my boyfriend that the lot was so cheap and with no mean I uttered if we can make reservations but what I was typing was, "is it still available next year"? I sarcastically argued with him, when he reacted having heard about the reservation. I was disturbed when he said  " you pressured me!" Just marry a millionaire. 
You did not understand me. These words kept on running into my memory. 

I kept silent and talked to myself. I  may be wrong. I cannot even give an amount to our wedding celebration. Our wedding day is yet to come and I am talking about many expenses. Car, house and others. I understand him at this point. I maybe just so insensitive.

I listened to myself and a voice said "you know what? It is not good to rely on your dreams, needs or  wants to others. You should be the one to make it happen. You work for it and make it into reality. I decided then that from now on, I need to watch my mouth about material things and what I really want. Because, I do not want to add pressure to my fiance. I will make some diaries of the things I want to achieve and I will do my very best to make in happen not relying on others, hopefully.

Friday, August 26, 2011

What will I do? I want my crush to notice me?!!

I was having a tutor with a 12 year Old girl. I was laughing when she told me so eagerly.
"Teacher, I need some advice. I want my crush to notice me. What will I do? "

At the back of my mind what is the right thing to advice with a 12 year Old girl wanted her crush to notice her? Since she is too young, I said, crush is ok but boyfriend?! Wait until you graduate college ok? I told her the following:
1.Make your self beautiful.
2.You must learn how to tie your hair.
3.You must learn how to become responsible
4. Do good on your studies.
5.Nurture your talents, explore them. You are good in reading so use them, like you make your own book or join your school writers organization.

I said " Do not do this for him, but do this for your self" because if you will fail you will not be hurt.

I let her talk and talk about her crush. I believe that it is relief of  emotions when she has a listener about her feelings. This age is very critical, they do not know yet the consequences once they cannot handle a relationship. They might be tempted into things which is too early for them to do. In this stage I believe she needs guidance to put her actions in a descent way. That's why I do not tel her about flirting things It may not be good to her. She may not be able to handle them correctly.