I was having a tutor with a 12 year Old girl. I was laughing when she told me so eagerly.
"Teacher, I need some advice. I want my crush to notice me. What will I do? "
At the back of my mind what is the right thing to advice with a 12 year Old girl wanted her crush to notice her? Since she is too young, I said, crush is ok but boyfriend?! Wait until you graduate college ok? I told her the following:
1.Make your self beautiful.
2.You must learn how to tie your hair.
3.You must learn how to become responsible
4. Do good on your studies.
5.Nurture your talents, explore them. You are good in reading so use them, like you make your own book or join your school writers organization.
I said " Do not do this for him, but do this for your self" because if you will fail you will not be hurt.
I let her talk and talk about her crush. I believe that it is relief of emotions when she has a listener about her feelings. This age is very critical, they do not know yet the consequences once they cannot handle a relationship. They might be tempted into things which is too early for them to do. In this stage I believe she needs guidance to put her actions in a descent way. That's why I do not tel her about flirting things It may not be good to her. She may not be able to handle them correctly.
"Teacher, I need some advice. I want my crush to notice me. What will I do? "
At the back of my mind what is the right thing to advice with a 12 year Old girl wanted her crush to notice her? Since she is too young, I said, crush is ok but boyfriend?! Wait until you graduate college ok? I told her the following:
1.Make your self beautiful.
2.You must learn how to tie your hair.
3.You must learn how to become responsible
4. Do good on your studies.
5.Nurture your talents, explore them. You are good in reading so use them, like you make your own book or join your school writers organization.
I said " Do not do this for him, but do this for your self" because if you will fail you will not be hurt.
I let her talk and talk about her crush. I believe that it is relief of emotions when she has a listener about her feelings. This age is very critical, they do not know yet the consequences once they cannot handle a relationship. They might be tempted into things which is too early for them to do. In this stage I believe she needs guidance to put her actions in a descent way. That's why I do not tel her about flirting things It may not be good to her. She may not be able to handle them correctly.
