Since my son's birth I was already with him. Where ever I go, I
bring him. Even going to the market I cuddle him with me. We have been together
for almost every day of his life.
Now that he is already 1yr. and about 3months old, I decided to
teach him saying: goodbye to me and me saying goodbye to him. Guess what, it's
not only him who find it hard to let go, but I am also struggling. I want to
cuddle him instead of saying goodbye and do my work. But, I need to practice
this and help him understand that we are completely separate person.
Today is the first day of practicing saying goodbye to each other.
I take him into a bath and change his clothes while I am trying to
let him understand these words.
Me: " Baby, naynay (mother) will work, I am just
outside. Ate will take care of you."
Then I try saying:
"Goodbye, bye, bye..." .
It was difficult for him to wave his hand, but I keep on smiling
while saying "bye, bye, you sleep first and naynay will work ok. He is
smiling while drinking his milk and trying to wave his hand. But, when I close
the door, he is crying out loud.
I can't hold it, I opened the door and explained again while
smiling: Naynay will work, I am just outside, I will come back and I put a
smile on my face."Bye, bye.." He tried to wave his hand while crying.
Deep inside me, I want to cuddle him but, I insisted not too. I need to do
this.
Why is it important to say goodbye to your baby instead of snipping
to go out when he can't see you?
1. For your baby to understand that you are completely separate person.
2. He'll understand that when you say goodbye you are just there
and you will come back.
3. To cope up with strangers anxiety.
4. Help him to grow independently.
