My brother died at an early age of 28. He died from a gunshot wound at the head. His lost brought sorrow to the whole family. He was the eldest and the only son. He was really a good man generous, loving, sweet, gentle and kind.
Having lost a dear bother and a son like him was very painful. There were several times that we thought of him and how to gain justice. It was even more painful remembering how he was put into death by the persons whom we suspect very close to him and whom he loved so much.
How do we accept his lost?
God and our faith i the key to everything and his good purpose of allowing him to die.
We think of the positive side of his lost. We answered our own question “Why God allowed it to happen? We answered it like this- maybe God wants our brother to stop feeling the pain and loneliness by bringing him in his kingdom. God wants to give him peace which my brother has always been hoping, for two years of his life before he died. Maybe his purpose in this world is already accomplished.
We think of how he leaved his life?
He leaved his life to the fullest. As if every day was last. He said I love you to the ones he loved. He fought his love even up to the last breath. His love was not selfish. He was very humble and kind.
He faced his trials with God and values. He tried to be a good man and fought temptations even he had nothing. I remember when he shared the video of Nick Vuljicik , he was amazed of how this man stays happy even without hands and feet. Each word that nick said really stock into his mind and heart that gives him courage to face and fight his trails in life. The song “The climb” was also one of his favourite. He was able to relate the lyrics of the song into how he faced his life and wanted to reach his dreams before he died.
Before he died?
He was able to say thank you and asked forgiveness to whom he thought he had hurt.
He was able to pray and was very happy without any doubts and limitation to show his goodness to those who planned to kill him.
These are the things that give us strength to face our lives without our dear brother. We decided to accept his lost and heal the pain.When we think of how he lived his life, it gives us confidence somehow. That he is worthy to face the LORD. Having lost a dear love one was very painful.
Healing and Acceptance
Healing and acceptance needed faith and positive outlook about what had happened. It took time to heal and it was a choice to accept a lost .When you are ready to learn how to accept. It would be a wonderful step through recovery. Learning process needs prayer and somebody. That somebody could be a Pastor or a Priest that could help you spiritually and help dig in and go through the answers of your entire question to God. Families comfort and uplifting words could give strength.
In times of grief we need to open our hearts and mind because it will help us to understand and accept everything. The heart of acceptance is GOD and our cooperation. It is through him that we learn to understand and stay happy even in the middle of sorrow. Acceptance does not happen in a wink of an eye but simultaneously but you will be successful if you are willing to surrender everything to God.
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